Posted on May 22, 2011 at 2:44 PM //
Observation: Negativity= Wrinkles
I work with some people who are really negative and consequently are also super wrinkly. I wouldn’t consider myself negative… I have been taught and stuck it deep in my heart what the Bible says about there being life and death in our words and that we have the choice to make it life. But, unfortunately, I wouldn’t exactly say I am a happy person. I’m not depressed or upset generally, but I’m not outwardly happy either.
This is where the “fake it ‘til you make it” comes in. I have made a decision to approach my lack of outward happiness this way.
For those of you who know me you are probably wondering what has happened to me. For those of you who don’t know me I’ll key you in. I hate fakeness. Almost more than anything. I would rather someone be themselves honestly (good or bad) than be something they aren’t. Now, I haven’t had a full change of heart….But I have decided this is an area where I could definitely show more, let’s say, effort. I have a friend who once said, “You call it fake. I call it control.”
So, in an effort to be more controlled and outwardly happy, I will smile when I don’t feel like it, spend that extra 5 minutes talking to someone who appreciates my time more than I do anyway, and love on people when I don’t feel like it.
If we are going to believe the Bible when it says there is life and death in the tongue and then go around saying actions speak louder than words then let’s apply that to being happy.
Life doesn’t always throw us happy situations. It’s still ok to deal with those without a smile or a laugh because they are hard. God is still with you through those things which should still ignite joy in your life.
References Nehemiah 8:10 Proverbs 18:21
Written by Tess Hemphill
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